"It is Blessed to Give AND Receive" (Christmas Eve Congregational Lovefeast Message 2008)

"It is Blessed to Give AND Receive"
Christmas Eve Congregational Lovefeast
Sermon from December 21, 2008 7:00pm
Year B Luke 2:1-20

It's better to give THAN to receive. This phrase is often heard a lot during this time of year:
--Stores use it to entice us to spend money and remember the ones we love with gifts.
--Charities use it to remind us that there are people around us that have less and need more than we do.
--Agencies, charities, and groups use it to propel us to give to their causes and organizations.
--Churches use it to prompt us to participate in God's mission and ministry in the world.
And it is true that giving is important--no doubt. Many of these places would not exist without our giving and their receiving.

Giving is important---God GAVE us Jesus on that long ago Christmas night as a bewildered mom and baffled dad welcomed a most unexpected baby into the world. God GIVES us Jesus again each year as we celebrate his birth anew as a reminder of this most beautiful gift to the world. The magi GAVE gold, frankincense, and mirth to the tiny baby they sought in love. We GIVE gifts to our family, friends, and even sometimes strangers that we seek to love.

But with this gift from God of Emmanuel--God with us--coming into the world, is it still true that it is BETTER to GIVE THAN to RECEIVE? When we GIVE, there has to be a receiver or it's not a gift. Maybe this phrases "It's better to give than to receive" is heard so often, is because it is more difficult to receive. I personally enjoy giving gifts more than receiving. Giving gifts is one of the best ways I find to love people--it's my love language. It's much harder for me to receive gifts, especially without the feelings of guilt or the need to return the favor. Maybe some of you can relate.

I was reading my advent devotional the other day and something really struck me that I would like to share that has affected the way I understand this whole idea of giving and receiving. Bishop Will Willimon, the former Dean of Duke Chapel, said, "The Christmas story--the one according to Luke not Dickens--is not about how blessed it is to be givers but about how essential it is for us to see ourselves as receivers." [William Willimon, "The God We Hardly Knew" in Watch for the Light: Readings for Advent and Christmas (Maryknoll, NY: Orbis Books, 2004) 144] Willimon goes on to say, "The Christmas story implies that what God wants to do for us is so strange, so beyond the bounds of human effort and striving, that God must resort to utterly unnatural, supernatural means. It tells of an unimaginable gift from a stranger, a God whom we hardly even knew. This strange story tells us how to be receivers. The first words of the church, a people born out of so odd a nativity, is that we are receivers before we are givers. Discipleship teaches us the art of seeing our lives as gifts." [Willimon, "The God We Hardly Knew," 146-147]

Maybe the phrase "It's BETTER to GIVE THAN to RECEIVE" should be stated a bit differently. Maybe hearing the Christmas Story and living into the Christmas story compels us to stop and say, "It's blessed to give AND receive." Receive God's gift to us in a baby--Emmanuel--God with us. Receive God's love and grace. Receive the Light of the World. --Without guilt--Without the NEED to give something in return--Just RECEIVE.

As we are receiving our candles this evening and --in a minute -- as we receive the light of Christ that is passed among us from the Advent wreath, may we be reminded this Christmas season that it is blessed to give AND receive. As we sing our closing hymn "Christ the Lord" in a bit, I invite you to raise your candle in the air on the last verse as a sign and symbol of the gift we are all given this night--Jesus, the Light of the World. I also invite you to take your candles home and place it somewhere to let it DAILY remind you of the gift we receive this day and everyday--the gift of Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior--Emmanuel--God with us. It is blessed to give and receive. Receive God's gift to us this day and every day. Amen.